Once again, Valentine's Day is upon us. So what do you have planned? Flowers? Candy? A romantic dinner for two? A friend of mine made this statement today: "What's the big deal about Valentine's Day? Really.... shouldn't they treat you like you are a princess every day of the year?" I laughed and replied that some do, and that we should treat them like kings.
I have been talking to different people over the last few days about Dr. Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages, and browsing his website. When Philip and I were courting, we went through the book together, and it gave me such a hopeful sense that we could truly have a loving, Christ-centered marriage that would last for a lifetime. I came across a short podcast in which Dr. Chapman makes the suggestion that for Valentine's Day, we express our love for our spouse in his or her primary love language, so that he or she will truly feel loved. Flowers or other gifts may speak loudly to one person, while spending uninterrupted time together may speak more effectively to another. To yet another, neither of these things might make them feel loved, but hearing their spouse tell them how much . The five love languages are Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. You can go to www.5lovelanguages.com and learn what your primary love language is, if you don't already know, and encourage your spouse to do the same, so you can begin to speak the love language that is most meaningful to one another. I highly recommend this, not just for Valentine's Day, but for every day!
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