We are celebrating the life and homegoing of a dear friend today, who has been like a mother to some of us, and has touched not only our lives, but the lives of countless others with the love of God. I would like to share with you a poem that was written by a young woman whose life was obviously impacted by our friend.
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Cranky people are annoying. Especially if they are loved ones. If you are the cranky one, it's worse. I love that song by Pharrell Williams - Happy. I totally get into it. I want to play it when others are cranky. Lately, my husband and friend had been cranky. Normally, I wig out and try to make things all better. This time, I was like, "What ever", talk to me when your normal!
Life happens to all of us. My wonderful friend and co-blogger Jeanne has suffered the loss of her home and belongings. That is a horrible life event that isn't just a pain in the butt, it's a real tragedy. God works all things together for the good to them that love Him, and are called according to His purpose. She will come through this like the champion God made her to be, but it still sucks.
So my question to you is, why are you cranky at times? Make the joy of The Lord your strength. Sing a song to God and see what He does. Even when things are not great, God can do great things in the midst of it. Since others have been cranky, I have begun like five future blogs, instead of barely getting them in at the last minute. Yes, you poor people will have to endure me for at least five more blogs, and who knows how many more, peace be with you...lol. Seriously though, most people are giving up things for lent. Why not give up being cranky and intentionally make an effort to be Happy instead. Imagine what would happen if you did something wild and crazy, like walk up to a complete stranger and say, "You look really nice today", to someone that looks like they really need a compliment. You may just save someone from killing themselves, or turn their crappy day around, then they may be kind to someone else. Imagine the possibilities. If you have trouble, ask God to see through His eyes. You never know, compassion and love may just flow from you. If God can make a dead person live, He can do anything. Enjoy today, you just may find you like it.
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When I heard about Jeanne's house fire I was terrified at first until I got to the words, "We're all safe." A house fire brings such terrible losses, some of them irretrievable, but we'd all been spared the worst. One more day to pretend there's a happy ending somewhere, hopefully in nearby proximity to us.
This is my friend, Jeanne Kincaid Miller's house that burned down recently. |
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As things stand now, the insurance company has put them up in the hotel, and is working on locating temporary housing on a more long term basis. The children's clothing needs seem to be well in the works, and they are still determining whether Gene and Jeanne's clothing are salvageable. Gift cards to local restaurants and other stores could be helpful at this time. If you are local to the Cumberland, MD area, items may be dropped off at Calvary Christian Academy in Cresaptown, MD. If you are out of the area and would like more information regarding this, you may email me directly: terri_thomas128@hotmail.com.
For anyone who may be interested in helping them, their band, Longing For Eden, has set up a fund at their online store where donations can be made to assist Gene and Jeanne. The link is http://www.longingforeden.com/store/#!/Help-Gene-and-Jeanne-Miller/p/47522109/category=0
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This is an excerpt from an Ann Voskamp writing. It is relevant AND thought provoking and I wanted to share it. Only three days later, people go around with these crosses right on their foreheads.It’s only three days after the world found out that The 21 died for being The People of the Cross, three days after that incomprehensible video stated they were “chopping off the heads of those that have been carrying the cross illusion in their heads” —-that people all around the world wear these sooty crosses right there on their faces, right above their eyes. Right there on their heads, the shaping of their minds.Like they want to be known and marked and counted as one of those. One of His.
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My husband, daughter and I went to the beach. On our way, Paul asked, "Did you bring towels"? I had forgotten, and instantly became upset. We were not going to swim, the water was too cold for us. We were simply walking with our feet in the water. Paul and I fussed, and each of us laid blame on the other. Then I simply said, "Lets forget it, it's done, we can do nothing about it now".
After that, God gave us an absolutely lovely day. It was warm & sunny, but just slightly overcast. Perfect! I was even able to pull off a yearly picture of Sarah, while we were there. I drank it all in, wile thinking of the vitamin D3 & C we received from the sun. Also, the magnesium and all the minerals from the water, and the salt air that cleared up, my little bit of a cold. We returned and were inside our home just as it began to rain. I mean, it poured down the rain. We were truly blessed of God.
So yes, we all have the occasional, forgetting of towels, rain or even snow in our lives. However, when God gives us many blessings, it's best to realize it. Then be thankful any time we have, a good day!
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- No meat may be eaten on days of abstinence.
- Catholics 14 years and older are bound to abstain from meat. Invalids, pregnant and nursing mothers are exempt.
- Fasting means having only one full meal to maintain one's strength. Two smaller, meatless and penitential meals are permitted according to one's needs, but they should not together equal the one full meal. Eating solid foods between meals is not permitted.
- Catholics from age 18 through age 59 are bound to fast. Again, invalids, pregnant and nursing mothers are exempt.
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In class I have heard some of these professors make statements like "this isn't high school anymore" and "I'm not here to hold your hand". I get it. We students need to step up our level of responsibility. However, these kinds of statements make the professors seem unapproachable.
My first big snafu was 2 weeks ago when I realized on a Friday that all of the online tasks I had worked so diligently on for an online class had been for the wrong chapter. There had been an email earlier in the week from the professor about a discrepancy on the website. The email was unclear, and I had dismissed it. Two days later, when I realized what was going on, I emailed my professor to explain that I wasn't sure if I could get all of the correct work completed on time due to the discrepancy. I did not ask for an extension. I asked for a suggestion of how I could prioritize or streamline the content. Then I spent 14 hours between Saturday and Sunday working on the assignments, trying to get it all done while waiting for his reply. That reply came just hours before everything was due and informed me that I needed to be more diligent on checking my email. Ummm... okay. Thanks for reinforcing the assumption that we are not to ask for assistance. (He just fell completely off of "the list") (And I got it all done....I just didn't shower for 3 days)
Today I had a rough draft due for a tough teacher. She runs a "no nonsense" kind of classroom. As I uploaded my draft, I discovered that my final draft of the previous paper that was due 8 days ago had not uploaded. Apparently I had neglected to click "confirm" when I attempted to upload it 10 days ago. After freaking out for a while (I have never had a late assignment, let alone a missing one), I took a deep breath and emailed her an explanation. I asked her if she would still be willing to read and comment on my paper even though I knew the grade would now be irrelevant. When I read her reply, I almost cried. She wrote "sometimes a student is so responsible that a teacher just knows there is a good reason behind a slip-up". She then told me I could submit the paper (8 days late) and she will grade it. Have mercy! She just moved up several notches on my list.
I arrived back in MD barely functional but life has to go on. I literally vacillated from pain to numbness and eventually only felt "dead" inside. I called Robert several times with no answer.The last time he did answer the phone and told me that he had quit his job, that he could barely get out of bed to brush his teeth, And that if he EVER came to the conclusion that the pastor was wrong that he would come for me. We never spoke again..
I did not go to church for quite a while. I heard on the radio about a new church that had opened up in our area and one morning I decided to go there-Love's Way was the name. When I entered the Pastor and his wife were coming down the aisle. They stopped and introduced themselves to me and both hugged me at the same time. I felt the love of God personified and when I responded to it the dam broke.
There were a group of believer's there that had a Christian crisis center in a neighboring town called Sonrise farms. The next Sunday the director came over to me, put her arms around me, and invited me to the farm. It was there over many weeks period that I began to unpack. One day I was sitting on the porch looking over the beauty of the farm and I was lamenting that Robert did not stand up for me or truth that I heard God say ever so gently "I know what it is like to be rejected also." The last of the reserve began to crumble and I was back on speaking terms with God again after dialogue re: His rejection. He also reminded me that he does not violate our free will. His plan WAS for Robert and I and he is committed to our destiny. HE is the constant, we are the variables.
For several years I looked for Robert to come for me; then I learned he had taken his own life.Oh-NOOOO-R-o-b-e-r-t-!! It took years for the roller coaster ride of emotions to stop but finally because of many people caring taking their time with me, and counsel, by the grace of God I was able to finally get a grip and begin to stabilize. I am exceedingly thankful to all!
Over the years I have experienced the faithfulness of God that is known only by relationship. I have known his mercy, grace,goodness and loving kindness, His favor and enablement and the list goes on. While I was pondering the writing of this story I saw something anew and it broke my heart. I loved Robert, really loved him. And then I saw a glimpse of how much God loves us, a love that is "so much more" and he stands there, Waiting..... arms open wide, life proffered.......and I sensed such a DEEP longing from him......yet many....of their own free will.... do not come to receive Him or His pardon and love. And saint and sinner alike do not trust Him with their lives, their future or His guidance at times. Forgives us Father!!
I know that no matter where life takes us-HE is there and that HE cares! even to the brink of hell-HE IS THERE! I know that for maturing and growing in Him we need the whole body, that is, Christian community. I also believe that errant leaders are God's business. Amen
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My toes become numb, several times a day, I have pain in my leg, I most likely broke my toe and my tailbone. I did not have another car accident, really. My tailbone still hurts due to my riding lawn mower, landing upon it last May. I smashed my foot into my kitchen cabinet, while running, and not paying enough attention to the strange configuration of my, new to me, Florida home. Then I sat in a chair for a long while twisted up in a strange position. This so as not to cause further pain to my tailbone. However, this caused damage to my leg muscles in some fashion. So I say "Woe is me". Then, as I ponder on a broader spectrum, and consider the entirety of my circumstances, this comes to my attention.
I have a great deal of things, to be thankful for. I have a husband that can take me to the doctors office. A doctor that is not charging us for services, because my husband fixed items for this doctor a long while back, and did not charge him. I don't need child care or transportation for my child to and from school. My child is old enough to stay home by herself and is cyber-schooled. I am not in the mountians of snow, as many in the north currently are. I really feel for them, I do. With all of those blessings, do I even have the right to think, "Woe is me"? Probably not. Instead I will say, "I am blessed". God had gifted me with many blessings. It is difficult to count them, and then say that horibly untrue phrase. "Woe is me". No, "I am blessed"!
When I read or hear of stories like these, I feel like I have been punched in the heart. Having carried the weight of depression myself (medicated and non medicated), I felt the sting of those words. I wanted to find these women, read one of them the riot act, and wrap my arms around the other one. However, since rioting is not productive, I messaged the writer of the post to encourage her.
"People speak freely and ignorantly into situations that they know nothing about. I have been guilty myself. Your relationship with God is between you and Him. Taking a medication does not save you....neither does it keep you from being saved. Salvation is a gift for ALL who believe. Beyond that....how we choose to walk out our faith is a matter of personal choice. Dunked or sprinkled. Hymns or Praise bands. No make up or all decked out. It all comes down to the cross."
When did our salvation become dependent on special terms and conditions? If that were the case, then does it mean that all unmedicated people are automatically saved? What about those who are medicating for cancer? Diabetes? High cholesterol? It sounds silly to me. From everything I have read in the Bible, I have come to understand that salvation is a gift from God. Free for the accepting. For all who believe. There are no prerequisites. "All" means all......
.........and thank God that "all" includes me. Imperfect. Damaged. Just as I am. ......Me.
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So.......moving right along :) I moved back to Texas the first of June that year and Robert and I spent the summer getting to know each other better. We talked with our Pastor there, who was also the President of the bible school re: getting married. He counseled us and prayed with us and gave us his approval. We were married the beginning of September and started our life together.
We had great fun together going to flea markets and antique stores morphing his bachelors pad into our home. Robert developed a taste of owning primitive antiques and as that was my love as well we enjoyed our time of looking, sometimes buying, learning to refinish and restore and life went on.
Over the next months we continued to live life together as we allowed God to work out the kinks. Then there was a major downfall of the Pastor at our church. This was devastating especially to Robert. During the 1st year of school he had made the decision to move to Ft Worth so he gave up his apartment and bought this home. This decision was mainly because he loved the church there and what God was doing through his people. And then there was a split...sheep scattered....things changed. We had been married just a year when this occurred.
Robert and I began to "church hop" looking for a new church home. One of the places we visited was a small church which had a woman Pastor and Robert really liked several aspects and decided that this is where he would like to call home. As I dearly loved Robert it was ok with me. Quite a change from where we had worshipped but....moving right along.
After we had been there several weeks the Pastor gave us a membership application. I had no clue that this was the beginning of the end for me. We filled them out and turned them in and that was that.
Several weeks later Robert changed-Drastically. He became morose, would not talk to me nor tell me what was wrong even though I pleaded with him. He moved into the other bedroom. I was at my wits end and then he came home from work one day and told me I had to leave. Nothing I said could persuade him to change his mind. I begged him to at least tell me what was wrong as I am beginning to pack and informed him I would NOT leave until he talked to me. I cannot describe the pain I felt-I could barely navigate.
He told me the Pastor had called him and asked him to come in for a meeting. And in that meeting she pulled out our membership applications and pointed out that I had been married before I married him. She proceeded to tell him that if he stayed married to me that we would both go to hell. She believed that since I had been divorced there was no way that I should ever re-marry. She knew none of the circumstance of the divorce nor did she bother ask. Robert believed her. HE. BELIEVED. HER.
I reminded him of our supernatural encounter on the bridge and what God had said to me....I reminded him that he was convinced God had told him to marry me...I reminded him that we submitted ourselves to the Pastor and he gave his approval. Nothing penetrated.
I left. Driving across country I could only drive for a couple of hours then I would get a motel and lay in a fetal position and cry till I could not cry any more. Life was bleak-I no longer had Robert and I felt like God had set me up.I was extremely hurt and angry at both of them. I had no where to turn.
To be continued.......
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“Today, if you will hear His voice,
Do not harden your hearts.” Hebrews 4:7
Do you hear God speak? Do you see the beauty in the earth He has created?
Is your heart hard toward what He explicitly says in His word, to do?
Do you have hatred toward another person? Do you avoid them?
I have. It's only the power of God that can remove all that mess.
In my own power I would not forgive, I would not see the beauty
He has created, I wouldn't soften my heart and I avoid harmful people.
Yep, that's me! However, I was honest with God and told Him my issues.
He met me where I was at that moment. He took my hand and lead me on
a journey toward healing my broken heart. He showed me why it happened.
He let me know I had some growing up to do, some things to learn through
this mess of emotions. He had a purpose and a plan. I had an "Ah Ha," moment.
So what is He working on with you? What is the big lesson He is teaching
you? What huge, nasty, pain in the butt thing, is happening in your life that you
want totally gone, like now? I am hard headed, for sure, but there is one thing
I am learning, it's best to ask, "What do You want me to learn through this God"?
The quicker you ask that question, the better off you will be. May we all learn
what ever God has for us to learn through the real tragedies and the pains in the
butt things in our lives.
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